Don’t believe your thoughts just because they are offered. Your brain wants life easy. It doesn’t like idea of 100 degree weather. Your thoughts by default can lie to you. Always ask yourself “is this true? Do what is true to you. Do what you choose to do not what’s easy, and “safe”. I wanted to be here so I’m here. I took charge and did what I wanted to do. Want to know more about how to live your and do what you love? Check out my bio and let’s have a conversation in a consult.

Widow is only a status. It is not who you are! You my friend have a life to live, I can help. Contacts in my bio or message me. I got you😉. #lifecoach #lifecoachforwomen #widowcoach #griefcoach #widowlife #takebackyourlife #choosejoy #lifeisfortheliving #widowsdoinglife #thisismylife #attitudeofgratitude

Be brave try new things. Might like it! Then keep trying till you get it. If he’d gave up first try he would never had this ride or the next where he did a 180. The life of your dreams is waiting for you to create it. Let’s chat. See bio.

Widow friends! Listen up! Are you wearing widow glasses for the world to see? Then blaming the world for seeing you as a widow? Take them off, you are not just a widow. You are a beautiful women of God who happens to be a widow. Identifying yourself as a widow is keeping you stuck). Want to know more check out ways to reach me in my bio and let’s have a conversation.

To all my fellow widows out there. You deserve to love yourself today and everyday. Take a few minutes everyday to just breathe in and sit with your loss and be with it. Showing yourself love and compassion is so underrated especially when you’ve lost your love. Let me pamper you a moment today. Enjoy #lifecoach #lifecoachforwomen #widowcoach #griefcoach #widowlife #takebackyourlife #choosejoy #lifeisfortheliving #widowsdoinglife #thisismylife #attitudeofgratitude #loveyourself

I must have Friends in low places. I thought we were buddies. Well I’ll remember you…next time…maybe you’ll give me some. Ok?

Monday Challenge: EVERY time you pass or see yourself in mirror today - stop and tell yourself "I love you" or "you are beautiful" or "your are worthy", or "you are a daughter of the KING". Show yourself some love and see how your world looks different. Please let me know in comments if you do this and how your day was affected? I am excited to hear.

Widows or anyone for that matter. What's stopping you from going after your dreams? Chances are fear of something plays a role. What if it didn't have to though? Who could you be if you just allow the fear but do it anyway? What If...? Come on in take a listen to this weeks podcast in Choosing Joy after grief and loss. I got you.😜 https://anchor.fm/pam-stoddard/episodes/Feel-the-Fear-and-Do-it-ANYWAY-e1kq2ob

Randy has been gone 4 anniversaries now as of yesterday. While I have some “I wish I had” (s). I have way more I’m glad I did (s). What about you? You won’t wish you’d been on that phone more or let the petty things be big things. You will wish you’d spent more time and been present more. You will wish you’d taken that walk, that trip, or had that conversation. Start creating your “glad I did (s) today. ❤️

Friday Funny! Your welcome.

Remember remember wishing for what you have now? Remember how it felt imagining what it would bring? How much better your life would be with it? Are you cherishing it now? Is your life better because of it? Drop in comments what you thought something would do for you? Did it? Do you still love it?

Happy 4th from Davidson & me. ❤️

Just a little breakfast love today. Family means so much to me. This group is fun. Missed the guys but gotta fit in where can. This gang is busy! #happybirthdaybabe #wemissyou

No words needed.

Podcast Day Excites me. Today I talk about Decision and all the drama around them. Take a listen for 6 steps to help you make better, calmer decisions. https://anchor.fm/pam-stoddard/episodes/Decision-Drama-e1kidpv

EXISTING OR LIVING - THAT'S THE CHOICE How can I help you live? I got you.

Widows should understand this more than most. What do you say ladies, how are you making the years count? Tell me in comments.

I’m a widow What’s your superpower? How can I say that? It’s easy when you look at what a super hero is “possesses superpowers, abilities beyond those of ordinary people” If that doesn’t define you as a widow I don’t know what does. When you learn to love you and give yourself compassion, love and credit for how strong you have been. You my friend have and are doing some of the hardest of hard. Want to know how to embrace you and your life after becoming a widow. If your ready for more If your ready to stop just existing If your done feeling dull and empty If your done letting life happen to you If your ready to fee ALIVE again Then grab your cape and join Widows Doing Life and Loving It Go from stuck in grief to Loving your life again. Become your own superhero. Hurry, July enrollment is ending and (don’t get put on the waitlist) Sign up now for Widows Doing Life 6 month group program right here or link in bio. www.pamstoddard.com

Todays podcast is When people tell you your strong and you are just not feeling it. What makes you strong anyway? When do you get to be strong again? Are all the decisions you have made since he past easy? All those hard things from day 1 of your loss are HARD and they all were crappy to do, right? Want to know what else they were? They were powerful and you, YOU did those hard things. It’s time to acknowledge you ladies. It’s time to accept it took strength and courage period. Stop putting any judgements or definitions on “your so strong”, just say thank you and accept what is. Take a listen ❤️ Todays podcast is When people tell you your strong and you are just not feeling it. #widow #grief #griefcoach #lifecoach #lostmyhusband #strong https://anchor.fm/pam-stoddard/episodes/When-People-tell-me-Im-Strong-e1k1qjt.

Spot on! Write the book, publish the article, take the class, take that trip, change your career… Whatever that voice is saying to you “it’s too scary, your to old or you can’t do it” by all means do it. ❤️

Don’t forget Q&A Zoom for Widows Doing Life and Loving It tomorrow night (Wednesday) at 8 PM Central. If your a widow and you are ready to have an amazing life instead of just going through the motions this program is for you. Join me and I’ll answer any questions about my new group program. Join Zoom Meeting click link Link above or below. https://us02web.zoom.us/j/3851969336 lifecoach #lifecoachforwomen #widowcoach #griefcoach #widowlife #takebackyourlife #choosejoy #lifeisfortheliving #widowsdoinglife #thisismylife #attitudeofgratitude

What ARE you waiting for? #choosingjoyafterloss #lifecoach #thewidowcoach #grief #loss #widowcoach #griefcoach #griefishard #griefjourney #widow #widowstrong #widowsdoinglife #widowyoucanbehappyagain #stopwaiting #lifeafterloss #widowshelpingwidows #your life is waiting #yourlifeisn’tover #grieving #griefandloss

Dreams don’t just happen. Chase them or stay where you are. The Choice is yours. lifecoach #lifecoachforwomen #widowcoach #griefcoach #widowlife #takebackyourlife #choosejoy #lifeisfortheliving #widowsdoinglife #thisismylife #attitudeofgratitude #chaseyourdreams

Think about what kind of attitude you want to have today. How will a change in your attitude and perspective influence your day? What should you spend less time thinking about? #lifecoach #lifecoachforwomen #widowcoach #griefcoach #takebackyourlife #choosejoy #lifeisfortheliving #widowsdoinglife #thisismylife #attitudeofgratitude

Overwhelm, Drama, Spinning these are all results of taking a small problem and adding confusion, assumptions and judgements to it. Stick to the facts make your problems small and your life BIG. ❤️ #lifecoac #griefcoach #widowcoach #choosingjoy #widowsdoinglife #liveyourlife #misshimalways #liveoutloud #thewidowcoach #learningtolovemylife #livingunoffended

Podcast Release. 🎉. . Facts -stick to the facts and lighten your load. Listen on your favorite podcast. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/choosing-joy-after-grief-and-loss/id1544895767?i=1000565708752

Widows what if it's possible this is true? I 100% believe it is and I 100% believe you can be VERY happy again if you want to be. Do You? #choosingjoyafterloss #lifecoach #thewidowcoach #grief #loss #widowcoach #griefcoach #griefishard #griefjourney #widow #widowstrong #widowsdoinglife #widowyoucanbehappyagain #lifeafterloss #widowshelpingwidows #yourlifeisn’tover #grieving #griefandloss

One of the things that is so hard to stop doing is Identifying as a Widow. We show up to things with our Widow/Grief glasses on and then wonder why we can't engage or others avoid us. Do we play a role in this...I think we do. Take a listen and see how you can Take OFF the glasses and show up Powerful, engaging and your wonderful self. https://vimeo.com/714832727 #lifecoach #grief #choosingjoy #stopidentifyingasawidow #griefcoach #widowsdoinglife #letsdothis

Dreaming is hard for widows and Living fully is even harder. I’ve got some secrets to make it easier. Want in? I’m sharing them in my new group coaching.

Widows are you tired of being a 3rd row rider? Join my Widows Doing Life and Loving it group and come ride 1st row with me.#widowlife #choosejoy #griefshare #grief #itsyourlife #widowsdoinglife

I’ve been asked many times why Choose Joy is my mantra. This, this right here. Get the tissues and smile through the tears. Love ya! https://youtu.be/qCdevloDE6E

Life coaching resembles this in some ways. My work is not to get you “over” things in your life, but to help you decide the outcome you want in each situation and support you while you reach it! Is the darkness suffocating you? Let me help you see the stars. I got you 😉. #widowhood #widow #choosingjoyingrief #griefsucks #widowcoach #lifecoach #widowyougotthis #startlivingtoday

Are you ready? I know I am. I bet your thinking 💭 I just don’t know how. Great news then...I have the tools. I know how 😉. Reach out to me. pamstoddard.com. #lifecoaching #griefcoachforwidows #widowlife #griefsucks #lossofalovedone #icanhelp #choosejoy

I posted this a year ago and it’s on my memories. I think of the little engine in our nursery rhymes. “I think I can...I think I can”. Look how long we’ve known what we tell ourselves is important, time we start listening and walk the walk I think. ❤️😘 #lifecoach #griefcoach #startingoveragain #lifeafterloss #choosejoy

I hear all the time from women in loss " I just can't do this". That's just not true (it's a lie your telling yourself). How do I know this. Because you are doing it. A more truthful statement is "I don't want to do this". At least that's true. But, it's just not serving you. Try I'm learning to do this or I can do hard things or I may not like this but I'm a rock star at doing it. Any of those are more empowering. All thoughts are optional but if you truely want different and you want more and you want to find some joy, then stop talking to yourself in ways that don't empower you. To do more, to be more, change your thoughts and start telling yourself your empowering story. I can help you with that. Go to my website pamstoddard.com and set up your consult now. #lifecoach #lifecoachforwomen #grief #griefcoach #choosejoy #widowlife #widowhoodsucks #thelifecoachschool

Your dreams don’t just happen. You have to be willing to feel the fear, be comfortable with failure and get to work creating your dream life. #lifecoachingforwomen #lifecoaching #widowlife #widowhood #choosejoy #thelifecoachschool

Change is scary and regret is never fun. But if your not willing to do scary things your going to have the same life, same results, same feelings, same everything as you have right now. Not sure about you but I want more and I want different. I want exciting. No Regrets. #lifecoach#choosingjoy#itsyourlifestylemagazine #widowcoach #widowlifesucks #widowsofinstagram #lifecoach #thelifecoachschool #widowtakebackyourlife

Are you a women experiencing grief and loss whose ready to dream and take back your life. New limited attendance program starting soon. Drop me a line if you’d like info. Be sure to join the Facebook group Women Choosing Joy in Grief and Loss. #widowcoaching #widowlife #grief #griefcoaching #choosingjoy #widowhoodsucks#lifecoachschool

This is such a good image of your thoughts. Plant thought flowers in your brain. The soil there is amazing and will yield flowers for you all over place. Prove me wrong.

Widows take back your life... are you ready? Let’s go. Join me I’ll show you the path. #widowhood #lifecoaching #choosejoy #griefjourney #griefcoach #takebackyourlife #thelifecoachschool #thetimeisnow

One of my favorite gifts this year. My heart is committed to making a difference and being an example of Choosing Joy after Grief and Loss. ❤️. #choosingjoy #lifecoaching #newyou #widow #takebackyourlife

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Tuesday's for me are for thought work. I do daily thought downloads, but on Tuesday's I concentrate on a subject that I am struggling with. Today I dumped my brain around frustration with the tech portion of my coaching business. What is a thought download, and what are the benefits? A thought download is just that - dumping or downloading all the "crap" in your head. It benefits you by “clearing” your head of all the confusion. Your brain thinks you’ve handled some of it and releases it. Try it today and see for yourself. Here is how you do it. · grab a pen and paper · write down anything that pops in your head (all of it) · don't worry if it's good or bad (expect the bad to outweigh the good in quantity for a while. · don't edit content or grammar just dump · don't overthink...don't even think just dump There - you did it! Wasn't that easy, trust me you'll feel better today. Next week we'll talk about the 50/50 of life and other ways to brain dump. Now for your HOMEWORK...YES HOMEWORK - DO A THOUGHT DOWNLOAD EVERY DAY THIS WEEK, (stop your brain right now, it's easy - 3-5 minutes a day) you got this.

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The holidays are here - how are you feeling about them? Maybe like you can't handle them? Like this time of year is just too hard? Maybe your worried you’ll be too sad and depressed? What is it about the holidays that makes them harder than any other day? We tie so many emotions to the holidays and we even blame them for how we feel. So how do we process those emotions so we can Choose to have Joy as well? Check out my very first blog post coming out this Friday, "How WE Make The Holidays Hard" To ensure you don't miss this read, subscribe to my newsletter by visiting my website - pamstoddard.com. #choosejoy #widowlife #grief #thelifecoachschool #lifecoach #widow

Yes Perfect! You can have both emotions Joy and Grief at same time. It’s not either or.#lifecoach #grief #widowhoodsucks #widow #choosejoy #lifecoachforwomen

CHOOSING JOY IN GRIEF IS A CHOICE - IT'S YOUR CHOICE. #choosejoy #widowhood #widow-life#widowhoodisnotforsissies #lifecoach #grief

You truly have the power within you. You just need to learn how to recognize it.

Choosing Joy through holidays. Three part video series coming soon. Are you grieving the loss of a loved one? You won’t want to miss this.

You never get over but you can go forward with it.

And the President is.... Are you waiting to hear to feel happy, joyful, ok, mad, sad, furious? Hey you can decide right now to feel that way, some already have decided how they are going to feel. You THINK AND BELIEVE the decision on election will or is causing those feelings. SECRET 🤫 It’s NOT, your wrong. Who is our President is not the cause of your feelings -YOU are. Only your thoughts about it will cause those feelings, and only you control your thoughts. But there’s good news. You can decide right now how you want to feel when you get the final news. Maybe you want to be excited and victorious; maybe you want to feel neutral; maybe you want to feel mad or furious. So I ask you to decide right now how you want to feel. What kind of person do you want to be? A person who adds negativity and turmoil to the world or the person that realizes that life is 50-50 and you want to add value even in the -50. #lifecoach #lifecoachingforwomen #itsyourlifeliveit #deciderightnow #lifeis5050 #choosejoy

My website is live. Check put the link. (It is still a work in progress but I’m getting there!!! #. WWW.pamstoddard.com

It is possible to have joy again after loss. You just have to choose it! It doesn’t mean your never going to be sad (of course you are and you will even want to, I do). I’m choosing joy everyday and still miss him everyday. Let me know if I can help you choose your joy.

I am offering a 6-week course on drinking less or stop over drinking! Private message me if interested starts Monday.

It’s ok not to be perfect and that’s OK! Do you agree? I do 100%.

Start today, let go of past, mend relationships or just be content with your decisions. All your choice. Ask me how I can help. #startingover #lifecoach #itsyourchoice #themodel #thelifecoachschool #choosingjoy #widowhood #griefrecovery

It’s probably a safe bet to say Everybody you know right now it NOT okay. It’s also safe to say you think you should be, am I right? What if I told you it’s ok NOT to be ok? #itsoknottobeok #thechoiceisyours #realitycheck #lifecoach

Don’t be afraid to make your dreams a reality. Believe it!! #dreamsdocometrue #itsyourchoice #lifecoach #doittoday

Ready, Set let’s Go! I’m ready to help you right here right now with any and all your brain drama or life issues! Truth is I’m still getting my social media stuff figured out but nothing is keeping me from helping you right now. What’s stopping you? Nothing? Then reach out to me let’s GO! #makethechange #starttoday #lifecoach #letsdothis #readysetgo

When you set your mind to a goal...You can and you will. #Creating my future #thelifecoachschool #certifiedcoach #ididit #makingdreamscometolife

Sometimes we think life is weighing heavy on us. It’s ok to let it be there and feel it. We don’t have to fight it or push it away. Let me show you how to be ok with this weight. Message me #lifecoach #life #griefsupport #lifeishard #choosejoy #collegelifeproblems #therapyworks #helpingothers

Life changing work! Get control over your mind drama. #lifecoaching #lifechoices #choosejoy #startyoung #nevertoyoungtostart #emotionalfreedom #griefsupport #mindmanagement

Many things including Covid bring so much extra stress to your life. What is on your mind? The secret is in you. Hit me up if your feeling these extra pressures, anxiety and stress and let’s talk.

You choose how you feel! Want to know how? ⬇️ message me. #choosingjoy #lifecoaching #choices #griefsupport #startingover

Different could be better and then again it might not be...want to know a secret? 🙋‍♀️ ⬇️ask me in message I’ll share my secret with you. #lifecoach #changinglives #thechoiceisyours #mindset #blooming #choosingjoy

Choosing Joy is truly possible in any circumstance. Tell me below a time you choose joy. ⬇️ #choosejoy #griefrecovery #startingover #widowhood #lifecoach

Your past is not who you are! News Flash- You and you alone get to decide who you are. #lifecoach #startingover #newyou #lifechoices #lettinggoofthepast #doittoday

I’m so excited to announce I’m a Certified Life Coach! #makingthechange #failingforward #pursueyourdreams #brookecastillo #thelifecoachschool

Truth! #brainpower #lifecoach #lifechange #takechargeofyourlife

Yes! So very thankful this is possible. Did you know you have a choice?

The choice is your to make. #lifechoices #choosingjoy #Lifeiswhatyoumakeit #nowwhat

As a life coach I can tell you the choice is yours! If you’ve think you’ve made the wrong choice the last few weeks, I can help you deal with that choice. #lifecoachfunnymeme

Someone thinks it’s break time. Ok let’s go get a few minutes of sunshine buddy!

Choosing to be proud of me today because I can. #choosejoy #joyinwidowhood #i’mstrong #you got this.

Recently I was asked what is my why? Have you ever thought about that? It’s ever evolving, not necessarily changing, becoming clearer all time. Best way for me to define my why is... Be an example to the world (young men women and kids) that you can make the choice to find and choose joy in every aspect and event of your life. Making not only your life better but those around you as well. I am just voicing this out loud since losing Randy but as I think about in my life I’ve always tried to be happy and joyful, it’s the base of who I am. I definitely have gotten lost along the way but smiling, joy and happiness always help me find my way out. If we can all learn that our feelings are what control our actions and results, we can change anything for the better. Simple things such as saying “I get to do” vs “I have to do” change your mindset and therefore the result for you and others. I’m a work in progress, but my heart knows and seeks the joy/happiness result. My hope as I practice I train my mind to follow my heart instead of the other way around you will see and feel me living a chosen joy filled life.

Who’s up for a 30 day group challenge? Details. Starting Friday June 13, ending Friday July 12th! 30 days of supporting each other. Keto recipes. I’ll provide 10 recipes that can followed and switched up for dinners. Lunch can be leftovers or I’ll provide a list of easy ideas. Keto fat bombs and Keto dessert recipes that you’ll love. Must drink your water daily!!! Drinking Ketones preferred but not required. I can get you samples and offering a keto life party to taste samples. Movement daily -you can choose what it is but 30 minutes minimum per day (at one time or in segments). (I’ll buddy walk with locals). I can even do a keto grocery shopping expo if your local or FaceTime - come with me to buy ingredients and learn to read labels, learn added sugars to watch for etc. If you are committed to 30 days to a better you raise your hand and PM me ASAP!

This is in my future today!!! Lovin my Life’s a peach sweet tea! keto life-ahhh 🍑 ☀️

Summertime! You’re menu includes: mint choc chip ice cream, mango slush or southern sweet peach tea...which are you having ? Let me know your choice. 🌴☀️🤗

When your job brings you not only health but you can do it from locations like this!

Staying the Keto Course on vacation. Yummy I’m my tummy.

First beach KETO Blue Ocean Pina Colada! #keto #family #ketones

On my way to a graduation party not sure what all there’s going to be to eat there so I’m preparing myself with my Keto// UP. Instant ketosis but what I know it does for me as it will give me energy and reduce cravings so I can stay true to me today.

No double chin in new company headshot. Celebrating the little “losses”. #ketodietsworks#ketonesyes

Cause tree climbing is “cool”.

Awe #lakelunch #jealous #sayawe

Any looking. Beautiful bike.

Just a boy and his dog!